The parent or primary carer, has mental emotional issues within and only focuses on the power to hurt and damage the other parent. This is very common but not acceptable. The tool for their power is young, trusting, loving children who are caught up in this game, used as pieces to move across the board and hurt, threaten and anger the other parent. Children are resilient! Are they? really? dont be so selfish.
Your instability is shaping these young people, building skills you display like deceit, anger, manipulation and emotional blackmail.
Whilst you are caught up in your own tragic evolving creation, you are responsible for the minds of those you are naturally supposed to nurture and protect. Why does a mother go against this instinct? How is she different to other women who do not and never could posses such negative traits. How was she raised? good point! Generation after generation, concentrated learnt behaviour is passed on.
What happens to these children? Are they taken off the mother and placed into a more caring environment, away from such cruel and diverse behaviour? Very rarely..she's the Mother right...with Mother's Rights! Not always the best and fairest way to treat these children yet nearly always where they remain.
Fragmented families are a very common picture in today's society so that must mean everyone just gets on with it...it's just the way things are these days....
Maybe we can't stop how worthless relationships and commitment have become and just maybe we can't change people having children where they lack education and good parenting themselves, but I really hope that this new era.. this slack parenting attitude with shocking painful insecurity, has an awakening..some sort of epiphany...what are the consequences of going into to schools and highlighted to young people that their family structure may not be healthy for them..maybe it's just best to leave them to grow and mature and then allow them to figure it out for themselves at a time when they have no idea of who to talk to and how to deal with their reactions and questions. How they deal with all the confusion and how it manifests itself is a gamble that society takes.
Social workers, foster carers, grandparents and stepparents are all extensions of a "family". In essence, it's not possible to correct the diversity but it is possible to support it for the good.